Written by Chantelle Otten, Lovehoney Ambassador & Psycho-Sexologist
There are a wide range of activities that fall under the sexual umbrella, and diversity in the space of sex and wellness is an important part of keeping your relationship refreshed and keeping that ‘spark’ we hear so much about, alive. While vanilla sex certainly has a time and place, changing things up can keep things hot and add greater intimacy for you and your sexual partner.
Diversifying your sex life doesn’t mean you need to be having sex with different people or attending swingers’ parties (unless you want to of course!). It can be as big or small a change as you, and your partner(s) feel comfortable with. As with any sexual activity, communication and consent is essential.
Changing Up Positions
Trying out new and kinky sex positions is a fun and easy way to broaden your sexual repertoire. While missionary can be great, there are many options out there that can add to your experience. Start off with some classics like doggy, or cowgirl, and as you get more confident you can get more ambitious. Remember, sex is all about fun and pleasure, and you might try positions that don’t quite work out – but that’s okay – you and you’ll partner can have a laugh about it and enjoy experimenting together. If you want some new sex positions to try, Lovehoney has a section on their blog dedicated to sex positions and publishes a ‘Position of the Week’ – why not set a challenge with your partner to try the weekly position? Otherwise, you could invest in some sex position card games or have a browse online for more ideas.
Try Some Role Play
Exploring your fantasies and giving your sexual desires a platform is an important part of any sexual relationship. Why not branch out and introduce your desires in the form of role play? It could be a naughty nurse and patient, a sexy fireman, or giving each other roles of a dom and sub. Whatever it is, share your fantasy with your partner and work together to see how you can bring them to life, while keeping within both of your sexual boundaries.
Introduce Toys
Sex toys should be considered a fun addition to sex – they are a great way to experience new sensations in the bedroom. There’s a huge range available designed to stimulate different body parts, some realistic and some not. I recommend hopping online and looking through sites like Lovehoney to see what you and your partner are interested in. It might be internal or external stimulation, something that vibrates, something that sucks, warms, or gyrates.
Experiment With Bondage
Handcuffs, blindfolds, and spankers can all be fun additions to the bedroom and used to diversify positions and roles within the bedroom. One of my favorite ways to mix things up with bondage is experimenting with sensory deprivation – it can be really hot!
Sex On Location
Most of us get into the routine of having sex at the same time, in the same place (vanilla sex). Something as simple as having sex in the morning rather than the evening, in the kitchen rather than the bedroom, or checking into a hotel for the night can be a great way of mixing up our routines. Also, think about how you usually start sexual play - could you start with something a little different or shuffle things around? How about adding in a foreplay game to keep you on your toes?
Diversifying Your Sexual Menu Beyond Vanilla Sex Diversifying Your Sexual Menu Beyond Vanilla Sex
